You may be shy to speak up your feelings to the guy you have a crush on, this is how to get that your crush without directly shooting your shot.
Attraction is a two-way thing; For the ladies, though, there is usually a hesitation when it comes to being the first one to act on such attraction.
Often times, when babes see guys they really have a crush on, they’d hardly shoot their shot, no matter how intense the attraction is.
While it’s always advised that women should shoot their shots and go after men they fancy, we also understand that there are women who are either shy, uncomfortable, fear rejection or are just plain traditional and would rather not do this.
For ladies who fall in this category, there’s still a chance that you’ll get the guy without having to ask him directly.
1. Put yourself out there
The simple answer is in positioning. Instead of outrightly shooting your shot and coming at him head-on, be a little subtle about it.
2. Speak with Your Body Language
We can attract people through how we carry ourselves. Developing confidence, changing our body language, and pursuing a life of purpose and passion will bring out your true inner beauty.
3. Take pride in your appearance
Those with high self-esteem will take better care of themselves by eating the right foods, getting enough sleep, practicing good hygiene, and staying active. Developing an individual sense of style also provides a great outlet for self-expression. You don’t need to look like a supermodel, but taking pride in your appearance leaves a great impression
4. Intense Eye Contact
Eye contact can mean attraction, but it can also mean a simple, non-romantic or non-sexual curiosity. Someone could look your way because they’re trying to figure something out about you. Holding eye contact with someone and gazing into their eyes can be the beginning of a mutual sexual attraction. When people see someone they find attractive, they are naturally inclined to give the object of their affection their full attention.
A genuine smile can light up the room. In fact, research shows that smiling generates more likeability. Not only that but smiling actually activates endorphins in our brain, a group of hormones that make us feel happy. On top of that, smiling is contagious. A sincere smile is a surefire way to look more attractive and feel good too!
6. Have a good attitude
Just like smiling, a good attitude is contagious. Having a positive attitude makes those around you feel good and will make them want to spend more time with you. When talking to people, don’t complain, whine, or say mean things about others. Rather focus on positivity, notice the good in others, and show gratitude about the blessings in your life. You can train yourself to have a better attitude by writing down a few things you are grateful for in a journal each day.
7. Be interested in who they are as a person and listen to everything they say
Make friends and engage him in conversations, both fun and serious ones.
“Get him talking about something he loves. When a guy’s talking about something he’s really into, he’ll get amped and subconsciously associate those feel-good vibes with you,” writes Kelly Thore of Cosmopolitan.
When communication is constant and regular, you likely get to hear their secrets, and also exchange information on stuff that makes you both happy.
There’re something about communicating with someone every time that makes the heart grow fond of them and foster some deep connection.
It may or may not be as successful as asking him clearly. Still, the secret here is getting your crush to come after you and to make him think he initiated the relationship, whereas it was your plan all along.
In the end, just get your man without having to ask.
He’ll think he asked, but of course, you’ll know he only got tangled in your well-executed operation-snatch-the-bae scheme.
Sly like a pocket thief and effective like black magic.